Saturday, March 21, 2009
"Why Are You Always So Happy?"
I stared at him. Then I replied, "I guess I'm just a happy kind of person."
His question got me thinking. Am I always so happy? If so, why?
Now I can be as cranky as the next person. And as irritated, as anxious, as worried, as frightened, as sad, as frustrated, as annoyed, and so on. It usually doesn't last long, and I hardly ever get really angry. Depending on the person you asked, I would probably be responsible for causing as much crankiness, irritation, anxiety, worry, fright, sadness, frustration, and annoyance as anyone else on the planet.
But overall, I am a happy kind of person. I have a pro-active, prevention-oriented, analytical, problem solving, glass half-full mindset.
Then I wondered why I am happy. Psychologists have researched the reasons for happiness, and I wondered what that research meant for me. First, my basic needs--food, shelter, clothing--are met. Second, I have meaningful volunteer work. Third, I have activities that put me in the zone. Fourth, I have a wonderful network of family and friends.
And that brings me to February's BJP. I decided to focus on one of the things contributing to my happiness--my women friends.
The foundation is Lacy's Stiff Stuff painted with Memories Mist.
The page started with a column of red and pink heart beads. The other beads are 6/0s, 8/0s, 11/0s, 15/0s, some 13/0 Charlottes, some hexes, and some 10/0 triangles.
I always gravitate to the backstitch. It seems to be my default stitch.
The beaded page is 2.75 inches by 2.75 inches.
I used red Nymo thread.
What I Was Thinking:
I selected raspberry as the color for this page because it is a happy, loving color. I see raspberry as not a blatantly feminine color but definitely not a masculine color. I used curves, circles and swirls to represent the reciprocal and undulating nature of my relationship with my women friends. We are mutually accepting, affirming, respectful, supportive, encouraging, and comforting. We laugh together and we cry together. We celebrate together and we grieve together. We learn from each other and we teach each other. The role each of us takes varies from time to time according to our needs and to our abilities to offer. I am very grateful for my women friends.
Issues that Came Up:
I was quite surprised to find that I was using more of the brighter raspberry colors. What in the world could that mean? That the more I thought about my women friends, the happier I got? Yep. That my raspberries were not ripe yet, giving them and my friendships more time to grow and mature? Sounds good, too.
The real fun of this page will come on Monday when I have lunch with two of those good friends. I'll bring this page to show them.